Introduction
I've had a few medium to long term relationships and quite a few short term affairs over many years. Maybe I'm better at the sex part than the love part as I have broken up with all my previous boyfriends and I'm hoping for better luck this time. I just got married when I was two months pregnant and I'm expecting in September. I also advised two very close female married friends on how to improve their sex lives. I also think I'm good at satisfying my men sexually and I'm very liberal and frank (online only) If you think that's good enough for me to have something interesting to say about sex, read on...
Sex
The utmost important thing is to choose a partner who is not inhibited and repressed about sex. Sex is also about play and adventure and if you married a stern serious strict old fashioned puritanical person with no sense of fun then its very difficult. A lifetime of habits and ideas imbibed in childhood is very hard to overcome.
Love
Just as important is love. I didn't marry an ideal sex partner by far. Tom is Christian. Whilst he didn't believe sex was only for procreation and making babies only and was ok with sex for pleasure, he is the most old fashioned of all my lovers and is quite uptight about what's proper in sex. He's very straight. He's actually the lousiest lover of all my lovers. However, he's the one who loves me the most and is the nicest to me. If you line all my exes in front of me, he's also quite low in the face handsomeness ranking ( all my men turn out to be slender and of decent build). Yet I'll still choose
him again. He's nice to people in general also. We all take each other for granted for a while but it's
good to start off from a higher level of love. Love is more important than sex.
Little things like walking hand in hand all the time, like always rushing home to be with me insteadof hanging out with the guys, watching movies together with popcorn, always listening to what I have
to say respectfully whether or not he agreed. etc..
Sex with Tom
It's the best because he really likes me a lot and he's very affectionate and tender in his caresses. I feel quite loved and respected and it's always a pleasure to have sex with him whether I come or not. It's a warm, cozy and happy experience and I'm always in the mood to have sex with him whenever he wants sex because he's so nice to me when we are at it. I feel good after sex. With some of my other lovers, I am made to feel empty or discarded or very cheap after having had sex. Why do they treat me so coldly after I've worked so hard to give them a good experience. I would clean myself and
them up with a wet towel, and offer drinks or food and warm conversation to try to keep up the friendliness but they tend to withdraw after sex. If I complain, I end up arguing and then the evening is ruined. I don't understand that. With Tom, if I lie back and go to sleep after cumming,he cleans me up if there is semen spilt. It's the other way round.
We usually have sex in bed in the missionary position, lying on the side with him entering me from behind or me lying on my back,with him lying on his side and entering me at an angle. I come often especially when he rubs my clitoris. If he's tired, I get to do my favorite position which is to ride him like a horse, facing him. That way, if I lean forward, I can grind my clitoris against his pubic area. Our sex is quite monotonous, always the same but I don't mind doing the same position again and again for the rest of my life as long as he's kind to me. I wont get bored with his niceness.
We are very different when it comes to sex. I look and behave very sweet and demure but really, once
you get past my defenses, I'm like a wanton slut but he's very straight and religious. His parents are
just as puritanical. He at first believed in sex only after marriage so for a very long time we only held hands and kissed. It took him a long time before he had sex with me. Once we kissed nonstop for an hour until I came. The only time in my life I've come from kissing. We were both very surprised when I came and he thought he had hurt me! He put me on a pedestal but I couldn't tell him that I'm no angel. I couldn't tell him I've been fucked in every single orifice and enjoyed it. Nor could I tell him that even to this day, his sperm is the only one of all my lovers that I've not tasted.
When I suck his cock, he doesn't like it enough to want to come in my mouth or face. He always pulls
out to enter my vagina. When I ask him how he feels about about something sexual, he often says this is disgusting, or that is weird or sick, so how can I tell him how I feel? When I mentioned about anal sex, he said its so dirty and perverted. So we got married without me telling him about my sexual past and my sexual preferences. I think he doesn't want to know. Once, after some petting but before we had started having sex together regularly, and we were both relaxed and chatting, I asked him whether anything about women turned him on especially, and whether he had any kinky desires I could fulfill. He replied that he liked sweet innocent girls like me and that he was turned off by all the slutty girls in porn who had very low morals. By that time, I had grown to love him and wanted him too badly to risk showing him what I really was like sexually. I know this is wrong and I'm very sorry about this but I was already 32 then and I've already had so many men who wouldn't commit, and I desperately wanted him and wanted to start a family with him. I was hoping in vain so many times. They mostly like the sex but they wouldn't commit to the future. Maybe they couldn't take my questioning and talking back. Tom was the opposite. He liked me because he found my conversation interesting. Sex was important but so was companionship to him. My girlfriends said I had sex too readily with my ex boyfriends. Usually by the fifth or sixth date, I'll let them touch me. Since I was so easy taken, they didn't treasure what they got so easily. So with Tom, I rejected all physical intimacy the first year and only let him progress in the second year, so by the time he got me, it was nearly the end of the second year. I let him persuade me with long chats, romantic dinners, flowers, gifts, cards, and enjoyed it
every step of the way. I fought over letting my dress, my bra and my panties be removed. I refused to let him enter me until he had brought me to many orgasms over several dates by stroking my clitoris. And when we finally had vaginal sex, and he came inside me, I told him that he had conquered me and that I was now his and his only. He was my proud owner.
The future of our sex life
I'm going to work on Tom slowly so he gets more adventurous in bed. This is going to take years. I can wait. Im going to show him my sexual self slowly, a bit at a time, and make him like me as I am, a fully sexual woman. I've had wild sex with many men, and such sex is easier to get. I can't get another Tom who treats me so well and is financially secure so easily. My love life is already perfect. I return his love by being as nice to him as he is to me and by being sexually faithful. Now I get to work on a more exciting sexual relationship. As for being faithful, I mean in deed. But in thought, when he's a bit of a bore in bed, I sometimes fantasize that he is someone else, doing all sorts of wicked things to me and forcing me to perform all sorts of sexual acts.
One of the reasons I refuse his efforts to convert me is the bible saying that he or she who has looked upon another person with lust has already committed adultery in his/her heart. There's no way I can live up to that kind of high standard, and I refuse to believe that others are also not lusting with their eyes. As long as I don't sleep with another man, I can imagine what I want, and still be faithful to him.
My next post will be about how I plan to seduce Tom into my ideal sex partner without making him think lowly of me..
I've had a few medium to long term relationships and quite a few short term affairs over many years. Maybe I'm better at the sex part than the love part as I have broken up with all my previous boyfriends and I'm hoping for better luck this time. I just got married when I was two months pregnant and I'm expecting in September. I also advised two very close female married friends on how to improve their sex lives. I also think I'm good at satisfying my men sexually and I'm very liberal and frank (online only) If you think that's good enough for me to have something interesting to say about sex, read on...
Sex
The utmost important thing is to choose a partner who is not inhibited and repressed about sex. Sex is also about play and adventure and if you married a stern serious strict old fashioned puritanical person with no sense of fun then its very difficult. A lifetime of habits and ideas imbibed in childhood is very hard to overcome.
Love
Just as important is love. I didn't marry an ideal sex partner by far. Tom is Christian. Whilst he didn't believe sex was only for procreation and making babies only and was ok with sex for pleasure, he is the most old fashioned of all my lovers and is quite uptight about what's proper in sex. He's very straight. He's actually the lousiest lover of all my lovers. However, he's the one who loves me the most and is the nicest to me. If you line all my exes in front of me, he's also quite low in the face handsomeness ranking ( all my men turn out to be slender and of decent build). Yet I'll still choose
him again. He's nice to people in general also. We all take each other for granted for a while but it's
good to start off from a higher level of love. Love is more important than sex.
Little things like walking hand in hand all the time, like always rushing home to be with me insteadof hanging out with the guys, watching movies together with popcorn, always listening to what I have
to say respectfully whether or not he agreed. etc..
Sex with Tom
It's the best because he really likes me a lot and he's very affectionate and tender in his caresses. I feel quite loved and respected and it's always a pleasure to have sex with him whether I come or not. It's a warm, cozy and happy experience and I'm always in the mood to have sex with him whenever he wants sex because he's so nice to me when we are at it. I feel good after sex. With some of my other lovers, I am made to feel empty or discarded or very cheap after having had sex. Why do they treat me so coldly after I've worked so hard to give them a good experience. I would clean myself and
them up with a wet towel, and offer drinks or food and warm conversation to try to keep up the friendliness but they tend to withdraw after sex. If I complain, I end up arguing and then the evening is ruined. I don't understand that. With Tom, if I lie back and go to sleep after cumming,he cleans me up if there is semen spilt. It's the other way round.
We usually have sex in bed in the missionary position, lying on the side with him entering me from behind or me lying on my back,with him lying on his side and entering me at an angle. I come often especially when he rubs my clitoris. If he's tired, I get to do my favorite position which is to ride him like a horse, facing him. That way, if I lean forward, I can grind my clitoris against his pubic area. Our sex is quite monotonous, always the same but I don't mind doing the same position again and again for the rest of my life as long as he's kind to me. I wont get bored with his niceness.
We are very different when it comes to sex. I look and behave very sweet and demure but really, once
you get past my defenses, I'm like a wanton slut but he's very straight and religious. His parents are
just as puritanical. He at first believed in sex only after marriage so for a very long time we only held hands and kissed. It took him a long time before he had sex with me. Once we kissed nonstop for an hour until I came. The only time in my life I've come from kissing. We were both very surprised when I came and he thought he had hurt me! He put me on a pedestal but I couldn't tell him that I'm no angel. I couldn't tell him I've been fucked in every single orifice and enjoyed it. Nor could I tell him that even to this day, his sperm is the only one of all my lovers that I've not tasted.
When I suck his cock, he doesn't like it enough to want to come in my mouth or face. He always pulls
out to enter my vagina. When I ask him how he feels about about something sexual, he often says this is disgusting, or that is weird or sick, so how can I tell him how I feel? When I mentioned about anal sex, he said its so dirty and perverted. So we got married without me telling him about my sexual past and my sexual preferences. I think he doesn't want to know. Once, after some petting but before we had started having sex together regularly, and we were both relaxed and chatting, I asked him whether anything about women turned him on especially, and whether he had any kinky desires I could fulfill. He replied that he liked sweet innocent girls like me and that he was turned off by all the slutty girls in porn who had very low morals. By that time, I had grown to love him and wanted him too badly to risk showing him what I really was like sexually. I know this is wrong and I'm very sorry about this but I was already 32 then and I've already had so many men who wouldn't commit, and I desperately wanted him and wanted to start a family with him. I was hoping in vain so many times. They mostly like the sex but they wouldn't commit to the future. Maybe they couldn't take my questioning and talking back. Tom was the opposite. He liked me because he found my conversation interesting. Sex was important but so was companionship to him. My girlfriends said I had sex too readily with my ex boyfriends. Usually by the fifth or sixth date, I'll let them touch me. Since I was so easy taken, they didn't treasure what they got so easily. So with Tom, I rejected all physical intimacy the first year and only let him progress in the second year, so by the time he got me, it was nearly the end of the second year. I let him persuade me with long chats, romantic dinners, flowers, gifts, cards, and enjoyed it
every step of the way. I fought over letting my dress, my bra and my panties be removed. I refused to let him enter me until he had brought me to many orgasms over several dates by stroking my clitoris. And when we finally had vaginal sex, and he came inside me, I told him that he had conquered me and that I was now his and his only. He was my proud owner.
The future of our sex life
I'm going to work on Tom slowly so he gets more adventurous in bed. This is going to take years. I can wait. Im going to show him my sexual self slowly, a bit at a time, and make him like me as I am, a fully sexual woman. I've had wild sex with many men, and such sex is easier to get. I can't get another Tom who treats me so well and is financially secure so easily. My love life is already perfect. I return his love by being as nice to him as he is to me and by being sexually faithful. Now I get to work on a more exciting sexual relationship. As for being faithful, I mean in deed. But in thought, when he's a bit of a bore in bed, I sometimes fantasize that he is someone else, doing all sorts of wicked things to me and forcing me to perform all sorts of sexual acts.
One of the reasons I refuse his efforts to convert me is the bible saying that he or she who has looked upon another person with lust has already committed adultery in his/her heart. There's no way I can live up to that kind of high standard, and I refuse to believe that others are also not lusting with their eyes. As long as I don't sleep with another man, I can imagine what I want, and still be faithful to him.
My next post will be about how I plan to seduce Tom into my ideal sex partner without making him think lowly of me..
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